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Why should I stay in India?

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Couple of days ago, I had an online encounter with my friend who went to USA for post graduate studies. To fund his education he works as a night watchman. He told me he bought a brand new laptop in just 10 days’ salary. Then followed a long discussion on why I shouldn’t be staying in India because life in USA is way better than in India. I’ve been hearing this from almost all my friends who went to USA. They want me to be there.

So, now, I’m thinking, why should I stay in India? What do I have here? I see India still does not have basic facilities. I won’t be able to own an Audi (which almost all my friends, who went to USA, bought in just few months’ time) if I stick to my current job all my life. I won’t be able to buy a big villa for my family. My next generations will have to face reservations in education system. I will never have a chance to drive my vehicle on clean, smooth roads. I’ll have to deal with corruption in almost every government office. I’ll not have 911 facility in case I face emergency. I’ll have to deal with highest amounts of pollution all my life. Things won’t improve because this country is run by crooks who only care for their own families.

Against this, USA is heaven (at least, all my friends told me so). They respect people and everyone gets equal chance to make it big. Their open mindedness is impressive. I can have all good things I want to see & experience- clean roads, quick service, advanced technology, security, best medical facilities et al. 

So why should I stay in India? I’m capable of moving to USA. Am I wasting my life in India? 

What do you say? 

The Big K

PS: I wrote this post because I want your opinion. Don’t just read and go away. Take a minute to write a comment.



39 Comments

  1. Ganesan S

    September 3, 2008

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    All the smart people can go to the greener patches and leave India for the left-over people and make it a great waste-land of the cyberworld! Maybe all of them can advise as to how to run our country.

    I really do not have an answer/solution.

    Your mother may not be the most beautiful women but most people love their mothers. May be they are all stupid.

    I must compliment that your site is thought-provoking.

    Ganesan

  2. kid

    September 4, 2008

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    If there are no problems, there is nothing to solve. Even if one is capable, one can’t solve, simply because there is no problem. So what good is that talent ??

    There is only one reason. In India, you have the chance to set things right (even though it may take you your life time), but in US you won’t find that. Simply because, there is nothing much to set things right.

    But you should stay in India, only if you are willing to solve the problems, if not, you should go to US (or any other *developed* country ) and live the trouble free life.

  3. Jayasree

    September 4, 2008

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    HI,I can clearly give you a high five to start with as post starts wth..coupl of days ago
    :-)….about why should you live in India,well true USA is farr advanced and is the giant now in all sectors..but isnt it silly just to follow the trend and be in place full of amenities than work toards making India one…
    Let me quote a true incident,
    About 4-5 years ago,in one remote part of India they found 7-8 diamonds,unfortunately the demons sent it abroad to check its authenticity and value.Goes without saying they have confiscated the same and we have lost our most precious asset..these were the ones actually owned by Tipu who ad kept its as contingency in case any famine,draught…and it sure worth multi-crores…now i am not speaking about the Kohinoor..thats altogheter different..well we had that much wealth and flourished so much….yeahh laid back attitude and governments norms were not so supportive to develop….but who does not live in hope….isnt hope the foundation to make a dream come true…

    Same friends of yours ask them ..what happends if they delay their mortgage payment by one day..as them how much they run after credit rating and vouching thier life to keep it good…And yes because they were educated in India goes without saying they would do well in USA for they are intelligent…But use is this education which cant repay its motherland..even today our education system is far advanced than what they have in US of A…and dont your friends know..same USA where they basking in the glory of Audis…Merc and Vauxhall they still one oppresed segment the afro americans who still are slaves and dont get access to basic amenties too..unemployment is so high for them that they reserve to unethical jobs like stealinng robbing and drug peddling…???ask your friends if they couldn’t do thier part by staying in india and improving its standars can they atleast contribute towards upliftment of the Afro-Amercians,who are still called blacks.in USA….even today so many of them are killed every minute just cause whites dont want them in THIER country…

    Do your friends know…that equal number of students come to India to get trained in yoga..art of living…banaras university …kalaniketan dance inst and i could go on….

    Its how concious one makes a decision where they wana be india or usa..but yes saying is so true…grass is always greener on the otherside

    Am sory if the post is damnnnlong i just felt its and next second i wa styping this post so it cmes direct from heart and no editions to it at all…

  4. Ankur Krishna

    September 4, 2008

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    You are correct the easier option and the more comfortable one is to move to USA. Theoretically it same as moving form your own house to a rented one just because the old house is no more comfortable. Avoiding a problem can be a stop-gap measure but not the solution. However hard we may try we can’t cut our links and love for our country. Who says USA treats everybody equally? They do discriminate too. Moreover its better to stay in our own country and work for it then be a second class citizen somewhere, carrying our passport for identification. Its easy to crib about the country’s problem but what is more important is to realise our obligations towards it.
    Cheers
    Ankur

  5. kid

    September 4, 2008

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    I think, the question is valid for *any* developed country and *any* developing country. Its absolutely right to be patriotic. But at the same time we should not forget our duty as a human towards humanity as a whole. (am I being unrealistic ?? ) We should not be limited to our country *only*. We should start thinking as *our* world.

    If, in the near future, somehow everything works out and we are able to address each and every problem, then does that mean we stay here and forget about the rest of the world ??

    I guess that is what the problem is with the developed world (especially the americans) who would not be able to tell you what is going in the world. Do we want to end up like them ?? Cocooned up in our little nests and turning a blink eye to everything around ourselves, other than us.

    If we think of only improving the place where we live and forget about the rest of the world than there is no difference between the ones who want stay back to make India a better place to live and those who want to find for themselves a better place to live. As this will imply we are only worried with the self.

    We need to set our sight for the humanity as a whole, with the first step as the home we live in.

  6. Likki Hari

    September 4, 2008

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    hello bros, This is a global economy. We choose best quality in the dress we wear, car we drive, and wife we marry.. and so on. moving to a developed country is also similar and is as simple as quality example. Indians are in hurry at the movement in developing developed countries not the developing country which is there own. There is no solution for this considering the size of our country and diversity it has by birth..English couldn’t nail china but choose india as easy target and the reason is diversity..

  7. The Big K

    September 4, 2008

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    Kid – your comments are contradictory. In the first comment, you said one should stay in his/her own country & try to solve problems.

    In the latest comment, you talk about taking world as ‘one’, which I believe indicates that it does not matter where you stay as long as you do your duty towards humanity. So, are you, in a way indicating that I may move to USA, have a good life for myself and contribute towards humanity?

  8. kid

    September 4, 2008

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    Big K : I think you got me wrong.

    I didn’t say we should stay in India because it is our country and solve the problems. I said, there is a problem in India and so we should stay. The second post, was infact, to clarify on the first post.

    The idea is, to make a choice not on the basis of which country we belonged to. But on the basis of where the problem lies. That is why I have mentioned, in the first post, its about the capability of solving the problem. Its about people who can make a difference. Who can make the world a better place to live in.

    And again, in the second post I have mentioned,
    “We need to set our sight for the humanity as a whole, with the first step as the home we live in.”
    sighting the reason why it should be India first. As Indians, I believe we are the best people who understand our problems and can solve them.

    We should not be limited from where the problems are coming, although I agree, the priority should be on the home.

    There are two ways we all can rise up.
    Either, you step on the other and push him down, so that you have risen relatively
    or
    you pull yourself up, there by pulling the other with you.

    So now, at the end, I ask you

    If we solve all the problems in our country, we have made India a better place to live. Do we keep our eyes shut and forget about the rest of the world ?? or should we help others out, with the experience we have gained when we overcome our problems ??

  9. The Big K

    September 4, 2008

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    If we solve all the problems in our country, we have made India a better place to live. Do we keep our eyes shut and forget about the rest of the world ?? or should we help others out, with the experience we have gained when we overcome our problems ??

    We may never solve the problems completely. At the most, we can try to minimize them.

    I got your point. Thanks.

  10. Mayur

    September 4, 2008

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    I’m an Indian and I’m proud to be an Indian. I feel it is my responsibility to work for the betterment of my country. An Audi excites me, big dollar salary might lure me but it doesn’t entice me to shift my loyalties and serve as a Night Watchman.

    I will do my part, even if it contributes to 0.001% of betterment of India. If all of us contribute that much, we will surely win.

  11. Ashok Katdare

    September 4, 2008

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    Basic reason to understand the attitude of your friend lies in his ignorance that the products he takes pride in owning are not from U.S of A. It requires a patriotism to be proud of our motherland & everything it possesses. Attractions are many but in-depth thinking reveal that it is better to be an owner than a slave of desires. Why other countries say S.Korea, Malasia,Japan, China.are in constant look out of making a better product than that available in US of A? Answer lies only in their patriotism. The concept have always been a backbencher in India. Path braker only can be achiever. So dear Engineers take a vow that they will create or get all these products and facilities in our own country .

  12. Pat

    September 4, 2008

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    Dear K,

    I look at it this way. People go abroad for a better salary, better standards of living etc which is a global phenomenon and i feel there is nothing wrong about it.

    However, when these people stay for a while abroad, they get the urge to come back to their motherland and that in turn brings in unique capabilities which may help in creation of a new ecosystem in India. So, to answer your question, yes i think people should work in outside countries for some years, and then come back to India. Their exposure would help us overall.

    Just my two cents.

    Regards

    Pat

  13. The Big K

    September 4, 2008

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    @ Pat : How many of those who go to USA come back? Among my friends, no one is even thinking of coming back. My cousin has been staying there for over a decade now – and now its impossible for him to come back.

    I’m going to address all these comments through a separate post, very soon.

  14. Mahul

    September 4, 2008

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    I’m an Indian and to be truthful, I’m not very proud of it.

    Why should I be??

    Whatever good is their in India, in it’s culture, it’s not because of me. Hell, it isn’t because of any person I know either. Should I be proud of what some Indian did 1000 years ago? No thanks, I can’t.

    So I should stay in India so that the day I die, I can hold my head high and say,” Such and such is good because I did it. I did not run away like my so and so friend did. I stayed back and I changed India for the better.

    And as far as the Audi is concerned, I’ll flaunt one in India, god willing”.

  15. Ash

    September 5, 2008

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    My take is, you should stay in India.

    People do have their own objectives in life, and its really up to them on what path to take.

    But.. if you possess the skills and knowledge to make a difference to society and fulfill a responsibility, then do take it upon yourself to set things right.

    With patience and persistence, you will eventually savor the fruits of your efforts (right back to you, biggie 😉 ).CE has already made a big impact. India is now waiting for your next ace up the sleeve 🙂

  16. kid

    October 10, 2008

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    give this book a shot – a reluctant fundamentalist by hamid mohsin.

    I read the book, a different style !!

    But I guess, we cannot use it here. The urge to return back is only when something Big hits you or when things are not working out !!!

    If all is well, then everybody maintains a Status Quo !!

  17. Net Comment

    February 9, 2009

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    A lot on Indians who used to come to the US even a decade or two ago, used to miss India a lot as a lot of things that were familiar were missing here – be it food, movies, Indian TV etc. Today, Indian food and groceries are available everywhere and so is Indian movies, TV Channels, Film shows and today in my neighborhood of 40 houses, there are 11 Indian homes!! So a lot of cultural aspects of loneliness is no longer here, however – if you start staying here and want a house, car and be a part of the American life style, you will realize that the cost of living here is very high especially if you are a home owner. Yes – you are better off than your friends in India but you will not be better off than your friends in the US.

    Now a lot of NRIs talk of the cushy lives their friends lead back in India – the servants, the cooks and the multinationals who pay them in dollars in India – and all the malls, conveniences and global products now available in India. But the fact is that there is the poverty and the lack of infrastucture and the sharp divide between the haves and have-nots.

    So it makes sense to stay in India – if 1) You have a house which you own, preferably one paid off by your parents, 2)a good job (and which is secure in this time of lay offs) 3)a lot of pull and influence, and 4) you are upper middle class (if not rich!).

    It makes sense to stay in USA – 1)You have a secure job, 2) You have a network of friends and a support system, 3) You are not over your head in debt, 4) You have a ton of savings, 5) You are in good health, 6) Your spouse earns as much as you and is in a different industry than you, so that chances that both of you get laid off at the same time is some what lessened, 7) you are smart enough to move in your job after every 2 years or so – so that you do not get frustrated when a “gora” gets promoted over you, 8) You have family in the US, or you are visiting India frequently and so is your family from India visiting you frequently 9) You have a green card/ citizenship 10) you have a house in India to come back to if the situation changes here in the US.

    So buddy – if you have the money in India and in the US you can live anywhere. If you have to borrow heavily to come to the US now without a secure job – then you are a fool! Come to the US if a company is paying you – live in a spartan manner for some time (from US standards), save money and then decide where you would like to stay here or India. If you can send money over to India to your family – that is not a bad thing, if you want to save money and take it back to India that is not a bad thing either. If you do not have money – staying in any of these two countries is not easy – but in India – at least your family feeds you and you are not homeless.

    Samjhe kya?

  18. kaka

    August 15, 2009

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    us is alaways a better place to be.we indians a too patriotic about our country, which is not helping us in any manner and we are making ourselves narrow minded. At the end money is what matters, if you can earn more money in india then go ahead, if in us then go ahead. Remember money can solve most of our problems. the rest of the problems can be solve by changing our attitude.

  19. Sudhakar

    August 15, 2009

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    Good Crap anyway.

    Am really patriotic to My Country.

    Not sure why i still Love India.

    I have got 15 peoples to work for me @ my office.

    Is that the reason behind i still love my Country.

    Simply no . Because i love my culture, though i worry about the recent conversation which spoils my country.

    I dont want to go abroad to work in petrol pump, car wash, road cleaners etc.

    If that’s the case, i am ready to clean my India’n road for salary. At least my Area.

    But if your mind says, why i have to stay her without any advancement.

    Think my city in 19’ns .

    Now its was much more faster . I get 16mbps broadband than working with 52kbps dial up.

    Finally for a bluffing person, no place will be good to survive even heaven. ( simply a message , and not to hurt my Dear Indian’s living in India )

  20. Anik

    August 16, 2009

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    I never had the opportunity to think of going abroad,although I belong to a family of very well educated engineers from top colleges in our country,that includes my father.

    However,my father kept visiting the US and other countries from time to time.Maybe once a year or more on short projects etc.

    So,its nothing unnatural for me to think of living abroad.

    Having said that,I would like to state that nothing on earth.I mean,nothing on earth can substitute the love I have for my motherland.

    I love my country more than anyone else,including my own very mother.Whoever tries to send me abroad to live,will have to first go through my blood and flesh.Such strong is the connection,that I have with my motherland.

    I don’t know,its just inherent.Inborn,and at times exposed through certain failures in life which are hard to take.

    Thats how it is.Life is,what you truly realise when you lose something to fate.Similar things have happened to me.Someone I loved,applied abroad for her Masters and left for Oxford.

    But,I lived on in India.I refused admission to a prestigious US university.Instead,I am sitting at home during recession,doing nothing productive.Still,no one can dissolve this resolve of mine to stick to my nation in times of distress.

    I sometimes wonder,why we complain of being inhuman.I sometimes wonder,why we complain of terrorism in India and blame our nation for all the corruption etc.

    If we were so corrupt,why didn’t our parents choose to settle in Sri Lanka and Bangladesh so that we may have been born in perfect safety?

    While we’re born,no one complains in pain why we’re born in India.Only when we face the heat and the sun,we want to sit in comfortable AC rooms in the west.Why do we forget it is our motherland which shows us the light to the universe?

    We’re born in comfortable rooms inside hospitals,not exposed to heat.It is our duty to make sure every other individual is made to go through the same process.That happens only if we change our own fate,along with others while working for our nation.The march for a progressed nation is collective,its not individual.

    If all of us start to think like the writer of this article,India will head nowhere unlike it has in the past 62 years.All the developments and progress that have occured in our nation have only been as a result of the pain and toil undergone by so many brave souls,who have to the extent of giving their lives,served our country.

    Do it for them,do it for humanity.

    If the US gives equal opportunity in the name of humanity,cant we Indians do it for our motherland in the name of humanity?

    Are we traitors to leave our motherland and settle abroad in the name of humanity?

    Think about it!

  21. smita

    August 16, 2009

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    why should one stay in India? Its because of the feeling of familiarity, the feeling of concern and the feeling of family which is present in this country. Its the support that ones family members give in times of thick and thin. The understanding that if tomorrow I’m sick then the old aunty living in the apartment across mine would come to enquire. The sense of reassurance that YES people care.

    You move to US, get a big house, drive an audi, have kids who have a private schooling. What happens after 15 or 20 years? Once they grow up, graduate, move halfway across the country and leave your home for good. Possibly severing ties and coming over only for family ocassions. In India at least, however far you are spread out in the country, your kin still is worried when you’re having troubles. Some or other person will try to help you stabilize. I think that is something worth staying here for.

    I’ll tell you another reason why you should stay in India. The feeling of equality one gets when we walk on the road; we are all brown skinned and black haired. We are not OUTSIDERS or sources of racial ridicule on our own streets. When you are abroad, if you DO end up in a high profile job that gives you a BIG pay, a villa and a car, you’ll still be discriminated one day. If not by the distinguished people you work with or your good neighbors then by some punk who drives by you on his bicycle shows you the birdie and foul mouths you. And then all of a sudden you start feeling: are you sticking out like a sore thumb?

    The cons-list in India probably exceeds the pros-list by a mile but any country is what is made out of it by its people, by the mass of youth who want a change and who are visibly restless to bring that change. If everyone of them just packed their bags and fled off who would stay here and work for that change?

    I’m proud of my country. I’m proud how much we have changed in the past 62 years since our independence. I’m proud of how some remarkable men and women have shaped the social and economic state of our country as it is now. We might be behind the super powers like US or China or Russia, but its also true we are MUCH better than what we were a couple of decades ago.

    I’m part of the youth brigade who see India rising. I’ll work for my country till my last breath and I’ll work to make it a more beautiful place for my next generation. So yeah, I think I’ll take my chances and I’ll live optimistically because you know the best thing about this? India will GROW in a rapid pace in the coming years. And being an Indian, I’ll have a FREE pass to the celebrations party 😀

    I know I already commented on the other post, but I can’t resist biggie 😉 The patriotic fever is riding high!!!

  22. Deependra

    September 9, 2009

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    look man if u want to go to usa … if u have a dream ..if u want something ….just reach for it and grab it ..just dont wait till eternity or the end of this world.

    India would be like U.S someday ….sorry bro cant wait for someday ,cant wait for tomorrow …..u need things and good life today ….. u need to act today ….now u ve got two options ..geta high paying job in india and fullfill ur dream there or …pack ur bag …and get a life in some developed country …..

    no need to change the country ..no need to show patriotism ..no need to say crap dilaouges…..dont think about the stupid country ..THINK ABOUT URSELF….think about ur dream ..and bro ..

    THATS THE REASON WHY UR FRIENDS NEVER WANT TO COME BACK …..NEITHER AM I …..

  23. Ramk

    October 29, 2009

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    @Deependra,

    If you have read all the comments in the blog and links that lead from here to other pages, you should be knowing by now that BigK is a sort of guy who wants to do something for this country. It is clear that you do not want to do anything for India,but why do you want to drag him into your path?.

    If everybody thought like you, there would not have been any developed countries in this world.

  24. Prashant Sharma

    March 5, 2010

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    Say proudly, I AM AN INDIAN.
    We Indians are the wealthiest among all ethnic groups in America, even faring better than the whites and the natives.
    There are 3.22 millions of Indians in USA (1.5% of population). YET,
    38% of doctors in USA are Indians.
    12% scientists in USA are Indians.
    36% of NASA scientists are Indians.
    34% of Microsoft employees are Indians.
    28% of IBM employees are Indians.
    17% of INTEL scientists are Indians.
    13% of XEROX employees are! Indians
    Some of the following facts may be known to you. These facts were recently published in a German magazine, which deals with WORLD HISTORY FACTS ABOUT INDIA.

    1. India never invaded any country in her last 1000 years of history.

    2. India invented the Number system. Zero was invented by Aryabhatta.

    3. The world’s first University was established in Takshila in 700BC. More than 10,500 students from all over the world studied more than 60 subjects. The University of Nalanda built in the 4 th century BC was one of the greatest achieveme! nts of ancient India in the field of education.

    4. According to the Forbes magazine, Sanskrit is the most suitable language for computer software.

    5. Ayurveda is the earliest school of medicine known to humans.

    6. Although western media portray modern images of India as poverty striken and underdeveloped through political corruption, India was once the richest empire on earth.

    7. The art of navigation was born in the river Sindh 5000 years ago. The very word “Navigation” is de! rived from the Sanskrit word NAVGATIH.

    8. The value of pi was first calculated by Budhayana, and he explained the concept of what is now k! nown as! the Pythagorean Theorem. British scholars have last year (1999) officially published that Budhayan’s works dates to the 6 th Century which is long before the European mathematicians.

    9. Algebra, trigonometry and calculus came from India. Quadratic equations were by Sridharacharya in the 11 th Century; the largest numbers the Greeks and the Romans used were 10 6 whereas Indians used numbers as big as 10 53.

    10. According to the Gemmological Institute of America, up until 1896, India was the only source of diamonds to the world.

    11. USA based IEEE has proved what has been a century-old suspicion amongst a! cademics that the pioneer of wireless communication was Pr! ofessor Jagdeesh Bose and not Marconi.

    12. The earliest reservoir and dam for irrigation was built in Saurashtra.

    13. Chess was invented in India.

    14. Sushruta is the father of surgery. 2600 years ago he and health scientists of his time conducted surgeries like cesareans, cataract, fractures and urinary stones. Usage of anaesthesia was well known in ancient India.

    15. When many cultures in the world were only nomadic forest dwellers over 5000 years ago, Indians established Harappan culture in Sindhu Valley (Indus Valley Civilisation).

    16. The place value system, the decimal system was developed in India in 100 BC.

    creator of Pentium chip (needs no introduction as 90% of the today’s computers run on it)? – Vinod Dahm

    third richest man on the world? – According to the latest report on Fortune Magazine, it is Azim Premji,

    the founder and creator of Hotmail (Hotmail is world’s No.1 web based email program) – Sabeer Bhatia

    president of AT & T-Bell Labs (AT & T-Bell Labs is the creator of program languages such as C, C++, Unix to name a few)- Arun Netravalli

    new MTD (Microsoft Testing Director) of Windows 2000, responsible to iron out all initial problems- Sanjay Tejwrika

    Chief Executives of CitiBank, Mckensey & Stanchart
    -Victor Menezes, Rajat Gupta, and Rana Talwar.

    Quotes about India.
    We owe a lot to the Indians, who taught us how to count, without which no worthwhile scientific discovery could have been made.
    Albert Einstein

    India is the cradle of the human race, the birthplace of human speech, the mother of history, the grandmother of legend and the great grand mother of tradition.
    Mark Twain.

    If there is one place on the face of earth where all dreams of living men have found a home from the very earliest days when man began the dream of existence, it is India.
    French scholar Romain Rolland.

    India conquered! and dominated China culturally for 20 centuries without ever having to send a single soldier across her border.
    Hu Shih
    (former Chinese ambassador to USA)

    ALL OF THE ABOVE IS JUST THE TIP OF THE ICEBERG, THE LIST COULD BE ENDLESS.
    BUT, if we don’t see even a glimpse of that great India in the India that we see today, it clearly means that we are not working up to our potential; and that if we do, we could once again be an evershining and inspiring country setting a bright path for rest of the world to follow.
    I hope you enjoyed it and work towards the welfare of INDIA.

    Say proudly, I AM AN INDIAN.

    • Nishant Varadachari

      July 19, 2011

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      All the above points…agreed.
      The only problem is..if all those indians were so good..y did they go to america & lived their dream..y not stay in india & made it big..just coz of the fact..coz probably even they knew..that they can just b OK kind of doctors,engineers,business ppl in india…but if they to talk big in terms of money,lifestyle,luxury,fame..AMERICA was,is & probably will always be D COUNTRY…am not against india..am just justfying my point..hope u dont tk it in an offensive manner..

  25. JustAsConfusedAsYou

    May 15, 2010

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    ^ That mail was a joke! 36% of NASA scientists are Indians? Uh no! I googled "Why should I stay in India" and I came across this post and all I find here are emotional posts. Trust me friend, I am going through the same gut-wrenching dilemma as you. Infact, take what you know about India and magnify it 10 times, that's the information I know! How? Because I am also a civil services aspirant. The more I know, the more I read, the more I realise how wrong this country has becomes. What a sad, crooked turn we took post-independence, and we snow-balled ourselves into a mess of corruption, population, crime so huge that it would at least take 100+ years to truly roll back. So my question is, why should my kids suffer? Why should I suffer? This country might become great after 200 years, but will be here to see it? 50 years ago our politicians had vision, of making this country great. That vision carried us this far. The current lot also has a vision – to rip this country apart. Where will this lead only god knows – gods that we have in plenty!

    I wish there was an easy answer for this question, but there isn't. You will have to do some soul searching, and whatever decesion that you may take, remember that you did what seemed best at that time. Good luck!

    • The_Big_K

      May 15, 2010

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      Why should I stay in India? Because I don't want coming generation to ask the same question. I've absolutely no doubts in my mind about why I should stay in India. Call it silly patriotism; but I'm an idiot who thinks things can be made better. I can't just leave and leave my motherland in its current state.

      India isn't 'that' bad to stay and I love being here. It just takes few literates to show courage and take up important positions (civil services would be a fantastic job). Look at how T. Chandrashekhar transformed the cities he was transferred to. If he could do it; others can, too. We only need few good people.

      By the way, 'why my kids should suffer' is bit overrated. I don't think everyone staying in India is 'suffering'.

      • JustAsConfusedAsYou

        May 17, 2010

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        Yeah, T Chandrashekar did some fantastic jobs in clearing up the mess, which explains his frequent transfers! I could give you n number of examples of how noble people who ignored the trivial issues and were long-term visionaries or people who wanted to change the system were clearly and cleverly "taken care of". My grouse is also against us Indians, since we are too busy to lead our own lives that we hardly ook outside our backyard and support what is truly important! So we go in herds to watch the stupid IPL matches, but you'll find a 100 empty chairs when it comes to RTI activism!

        Look, the term 'suffering' is realtive to you and me. I obviously don't mean suffering in terms of suffering in Darfur or Rwanda, but suffering in terms of infrastructure, electricity, water, basic human rights, law and order. This debate is endless anyway, good luck with your choice! And trust me, bailing out on India is not on the top of my scheme of things either, I was an Indian Army aspirant who got conferenced out in the SSB, I am also a civil services aspirant who has cleared his mains twice! My point is, and I'll be honest, if you want to live here, you have to have connections. Interpret it the way you want. Cheers!

        • The_Big_K

          May 17, 2010

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          Point well said and well taken. I agree to everything you said. I see this as India's second struggle for freedom. When the Brits ruled us; couple of Indian had the courage and vision to see 'Free India' and they worked on it – finally we got freedom.

          One generation will have to 'suffer' and create better India for next generations. Whether you want to be a part of that generation or not, is your choice. I believe there are lot of people who agree that India can still be fixed and are willing to work on it. I'm also aware that such people are very scarce in number; but that's our ray of hope.

  26. adish

    August 14, 2010

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    becoz india's ranking for life satisfaction is 32 and america's ranking for the same is 157 .

  27. Ubiquitary

    August 23, 2010

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    Nice post. Frankly I have been pondering on the same topic for a while now. I think the important question to ask here is what do you want to do in life? Having a fancy car and a big house is nice. But no one’s gonna remember you for it. I believe India & China currently are in the “Greatest Impact Zone”, meaning that their population is so huge that a focused and committed effort will make a tremendous impact on on just the country but the world.

  28. nitin

    May 5, 2011

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    If somebody is living in India and doing nothing for the country just being part of
    narrow minded chats in offices
    by being corrupt the same way as other are by giving bribes to traffic police and many other …
    by accepting everything that is going on …We Indians dont have a voice to raise when we see anything wrong is happening…take any matter…all dumbasses …get married at …25-30 and their 1st priority is to serve urself..women and children …parents …
    nd if hv some time….join some NGO ….in that also ….corruption has become 2nd max in India….

    want to learn patriotism…go to china, europe nations…living in india doing nothing is not patriotism..!

  29. Princessrafs

    November 14, 2011

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    Some emotional outburst I see in this blog.. I got this page when I googled ‘Why should I stay in India’ and I googled that statement to get rid of the monotony in my life.. I googled to get some gyan on why I should be staying in India.. but here I get either staunch sentiments about ‘motherland’ or ‘no care attitude’ or ‘I just dont want to stay in India’ feeling.. so net net no gyan that I wanted to seek.. Motherland and all is well and good.. but I ask myself what is my motherland? the man-made boundaries which is called India? Why cant all the land be my mother land? after all its the same land??!! well i think no one can answer that… but it doesn’t hurt to ask.. anyways..
     then I ask myself whats the big deal about going anywhere else.. but i guess that’s easy to answer because India is dirty in all ways and it takes more than a broom and colin to clean this dirt and I want no part of it after all I am already bogged down with the daily cleaning of my own home.. which again seem to get dirty the next day.. and we are talking about the whole country and millions of heads in it! oh no.. i am not out to undertake that task.. nor do I expect my children to.
    But on the other side.. India has so many good things to offer me.. where else can I knock my neighbour’s door in the middle of the night and I know I will get help.. Where else will my relatives have time for me even during weekdays! where else will my whole family gather for total gossip and relive our past moments and laugh together without having any other thought in mind.. where else will the ‘snooping’ neighbors ensure that my kids are behaving themselves in public.. where else will I not have to worry about using cane on my children and have not a thought of police knocking on my door.. where else will my kids remain kids till I am ready to kick them out of the house.. (maybe in their 20s) .. where else will I get organic veggies and fruits without a huge price tag .. there are so many ‘where else’ that I can think of but I think you got my point.. so why then? why do I still want to leave India ..?

    I just want to live somewhere else for a change.. in a clean place, with walkways that I can go for morning walk on.. safe for children, where people have civic sense and follow traffic rules.. where I can get all the luxuries without asking and elevate the standard of my living.. and maybe then I will miss my people back home and  I realize what we have made out of India and its people..
    I then understand whats missing in my ‘motherland’ and maybe come back to put some sense into people about the ‘Different’ kind of living that we can make possible with some effort from everyone of us.. I then will enable the same kind of living in my vicinity and influence others to adapt to my kind of living … value hygiene and human life & human sentiments..  I then will abide by what I need to do and do not expect others to ‘Adjust’ to my carelessness & lazy attitude..
    I then would know what was missing in India and thrive to fulfill that gap.. and if I have many more such ‘Is’ with me, I can make India a better place for us.. and in no time then ‘I’ will become a ‘WE’ and will remain thus for a very long time to come…

  30. Nishantbhatt95

    November 30, 2011

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    i am with you totally. India is not the right place to live and there are not equal opportunities here.

  31. Aayush Varghese

    December 6, 2012

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    I think we should live in India because India is still developing… Who knows, maybe India will become better in everything than USA

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