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My previous post, Why should I stay in India received good response. Almost every commenter wrote his/her feelings. It looks to me that everyone likes the idea of staying in India and solving problems here. But its easier said than done.

Let me tell you, I love India. Despite all the problems I mentioned in my previous post – I love my own country. Its hard to explain but I never felt like settling in USA, like many do. Its not that I’m anti-USA. In fact, I respect them for what they are. As per most of the suggestions, I like to solve problems here. I want to bring a positive change to the whole corrupt system. But like most of you – I don’t know where to begin.

Those who suggested living in India makes more sense if I want to solve problems here, I’ve a question – What are you doing to solve the common problems you see around you? I’d really love to hear from you! Most of the people I see are the part of the problem. They’d spit on the clean roads, jump the traffic signals, bribe at passport offices, throw trash out of veranda, rise their children to settle abroad, copy everything from the west etc. So the question is, if I decide to stay in India, can I really expect the situation to change in my lifetime? Will I ever see the India we all are dreaming of?

One suggestion said, one should live out of India for few years. Looks like the best option. But I’ve a question. How many of those who go to live out of India for ‘few years’, really come back? None. “Swades” happens in movies, rarely in real life.

We all have been talking – and that’s it. Where’s the action? Things aren’t going to change on their own.

So, what to do now?

The Big K


  1. Abid

    September 5, 2008

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    Why should I stay in India is a very good question. Its also probably one of the most difficult questions to answer. I am not going to answer that as in my case I have a million excuses and I have never bothered leaving even though I had many people asking me to leave including family and friends.

    To answer your question I believe that we can make this country stronger and better by building a better economy. Now that’s easier said than done. If everyone contributes in their own way we will surely succeed. I am contributing as an entrepreneur by starting and sustaining a new venture. So if everyone does his or her part well we will be where we want to be. 😉

  2. technospartan

    September 6, 2008

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    Every thing is”EASIER SAID THAN DONE”.but then how many people really work for the change? how many
    are really the change? and how many
    are changed by the system?

  3. The Big K

    September 6, 2008

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    That’s my point, technospartan. Given a chance, most of the people would move to America. That’s a fact.

  4. kid

    September 7, 2008

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    I will have to admit. I don’t do much to change my country.
    But I do everything to make me a neutral citizen. (Good will be when I improve), but not paying bribes, not throwing stuff on the road etc.

    I know it is not enough. But I still try.

    And about moving to america, I know it is easy money. (most people go there to make money rather than the comfort of life). But most of us, who work in Indian companies, do return back.

  5. Ash

    September 8, 2008

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    I can’t say much for the case of India, but for my own country, I do try participating in online discussions about finding solutions to issues such as environmental and political problems. Theres a place called YouthSays which aims to unite all Malaysian youth and serve as a platform to voice out opinions. I used to be frequent there, but I’ve swamped with uni projects. For now, Crazy Engineers will be the place to discuss and deliberate on issues with like-minded engineers 🙂

    I’m working on Solar powered projects, which hopefully will provide electrical (and communication) access to not only rural areas in Malaysia, but also around the world. All that I require to complete this goal is here.

    I believe if India already has the materials and knowledge to make itself a better country, then its wise to utilize them. Whats the point of going abroad and coming back when all what you NEED to accomplish your goals is already in you own country?
    Keep on persisting. Abid gives a good example about everyone doing their own part.

  6. Mayur

    September 10, 2008

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    I agree to that fact that what can we do as an individual? But tell me the reason for USA’s growth, or for that matter Germany or Japan’s growth. They are consistently topping the economic charts for decades now, and all on their own. Unlike USA which is cosmopolitan and thrived on people like us who migrated to the open culture.

    One main reason is their love for self discipline. This is why most of we Indians falter. Second reason is their patriotism. I feel if every individual decides he wants to make a difference, he can. You can, I can… WE WILL

  7. The Big K

    September 10, 2008

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    Hmm. Yes. We will. But we’ve been saying this for past so many years.

    How do we increase levels of patriotism in individuals?

  8. Mayur

    September 11, 2008

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    You be patriotic yourself. Others will follow. You have a CE where 20,000 people have followed your dream to unite engineers across the globe. At least they have registered an interest, even if it is for their personal benefit.

    Patriotism spreads like fashion. But it needs vigor and commitment to make it a habit.

  9. kid

    September 12, 2008

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    Mayur has pointed out a valid point indeed. Self-discipline. If we all follows the rules, keep our street clean and maintain small things like that, we can make a difference.

    More than anything, it is the attitude of the people which is different. Every one has the “chalta hai” attitude. We are too willing to compromise. Of people to think of their and only their benefit. Everyone is willing to sacrifice the society as a whole to gain a little something for him or herself.

    Once we fix this problem, we have fixed half the problem !!

  10. The Big K

    September 12, 2008

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    Yes, I agree with both of you. Its the attitude that needs a change. But the trouble is – how do we go about changing people’s attitude? Is it even possible?

  11. Mayur

    September 12, 2008

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    You don’t get convinced easily… Do you?

    Change your attitude. If you are capable enough, people will follow you.

    You cant make a horse to drink even if you take him to the lake. But you can make him to whatever you are doing. I’m sure you will master this art.

  12. Saad

    September 29, 2008

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    Hi Big K,
    Firstly, love your guitar playing..its awesome and I’m going to play all those songs one day.

    Secondly, sorry for replying to this post very late, but I just saw it and wanted to input.

    You said that the Swades thing never happens, that people never return to India. My parents moved to USA when I was four years old. I’m now 17 years old and in college here in the US.

    The very first time I went back to India, when I was 7 years old, I realized that I would move back. As you said, it rarely happens, and I’ve always thought about whether I would ever be able to move back or not. I just visited this year, and understood what living in India would mean, and I am still intent on moving back. My parents and many other older people do not seem to think it is possible, but I know I will do it. I’m now earning a degree in psychology as well as social work. I want to get a phd and do some sort of psychology/social work type of thing in India. No matter what I end up doing, I will be working for the betterment of people in our country.

    As I said, many people tell me that its not possible, and many of them wonder why I would want to leave America and go to India. Besides the fact that it is the place of my birth, the place where my parents spent most of their lives, and the place where my family lives, it is also the greatest country ever.

    Living in America for so many years, I can tell you that there is one thing I have figured out. Everything that is available in the US is found somewhere in India. But there are thousands of things in India that you’ll never find here. Things like culture, values, history, aloo chaat..

    I can also tell you that when I’m in India, I feel like I am home. When I come back here, I hate it. When I go to India, there is nothing I miss about America, no amenity, no luxury, anything. When I come back to the USA, I miss every street corner of my country.

    And when I think about spending the rest of my life in the USA, as so many Indians end up doing, it sickens me. What happens when you come here is that your life becomes 1. buying a house 2. buying a car 3. buying another car. 4. buying a bigger house..etc etc etc. And you spend the rest of your life just working to pay for an empty house and car. To me, its meaningless.

    And the worst are the people that leave India, and then complain about the problems within India. I could go on and on about them. So many of them sit here in the US and say that in India this is wrong and this is wrong. But they don’t do a single thing to change it.

    Thats my view.


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