Someone left a comment on my post titled “Why Should I Stay In India?“. I am promoting it to a post on the SuperBlog: –
A lot on Indians who used to come to the US even a decade or two ago, used to miss India a lot as a lot of things that were familiar were missing here – be it food, movies, Indian TV etc. Today, Indian food and groceries are available everywhere and so is Indian movies, TV Channels, Film shows and today in my neighborhood of 40 houses, there are 11 Indian homes!! So a lot of cultural aspects of loneliness is no longer here, however – if you start staying here and want a house, car and be a part of the American life style, you will realize that the cost of living here is very high especially if you are a home owner. Yes – you are better off than your friends in India but you will not be better off than your friends in the US.
Now a lot of NRIs talk of the cushy lives their friends lead back in India – the servants, the cooks and the multinationals who pay them in dollars in India – and all the malls, conveniences and global products now available in India. But the fact is that there is the poverty and the lack of infrastucture and the sharp divide between the haves and have-nots.
So it makes sense to stay in India – if 1) You have a house which you own, preferably one paid off by your parents, 2)a good job (and which is secure in this time of lay offs) 3)a lot of pull and influence, and 4) you are upper middle class (if not rich!).
It makes sense to stay in USA – 1)You have a secure job, 2) You have a network of friends and a support system, 3) You are not over your head in debt, 4) You have a ton of savings, 5) You are in good health, 6) Your spouse earns as much as you and is in a different industry than you, so that chances that both of you get laid off at the same time is some what lessened, 7) you are smart enough to move in your job after every 2 years or so – so that you do not get frustrated when a “gora” gets promoted over you, You have family in the US, or you are visiting India frequently and so is your family from India visiting you frequently 9) You have a green card/ citizenship 10) you have a house in India to come back to if the situation changes here in the US.
So buddy – if you have the money in India and in the US you can live anywhere. If you have to borrow heavily to come to the US now without a secure job – then you are a fool! Come to the US if a company is paying you – live in a spartan manner for some time (from US standards), save money and then decide where you would like to stay here or India. If you can send money over to India to your family – that is not a bad thing, if you want to save money and take it back to India that is not a bad thing either. If you do not have money – staying in any of these two countries is not easy – but in India – at least your family feeds you and you are not homeless.