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All That People Want Is Respect

By on Dec 4, 2010 | 2 comments

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How do you treat the lift man and the security guard at your office? How do you treat the waiter in the hotel? How do you treat your house maid? Do you have respect for them?

It pains me to see these people being treated with no respect. “A Sharma…Idhar Aaa”, one of the boys in my society calls our watchman who’s at least 40 years older than him.

Why can’t be use respectful words for everyone who’s older than us? Our mother tongue gives us that power. English does not.

The Big K


  1. Amit

    December 7, 2010

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    So, so, so agree to this.

    It is a common way to judge a man’s character – if he treats people with respect where he is not obliged to, he is a good man.

    On another note, in English it is simpler because there’re no respect modifiers – hence you can talk to anyone with a standard level of respect, without the listener feeling the pinch of it, since he knows that the language is like this. On the other hand languages like our mothertongues (or Japanese for that matter!) where there are multiple levels of respect in addressing, it is easy to goof up, and offend someone.

    As a rule of thumb, I address all strangers as ‘aap’, except when they are evidently younger than me, when ‘tum’ kicks in. ‘Tu’ is reserved for close friends only. Or talk in English.

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