I’ve observed this numerous times. Housewives *never* (yep, with asterisks!) get the credit they deserve for the work they do. The reason? Well, household chores are often treated less important than ‘going out to earn money’. Maintaining the house, keeping it clean, maintaining the monthly budget and all the related activity is considered as work-less-important than the ‘office work’. Following inequality summarizes the common belief people have towards the two types of work:-
Housework < Office Work
…and the beauty of this inequality is that it’s very generic. No matter the kind of work is done in office; it’s always of greater importance than any housework. Why does the world think like that? In my opinion –
- Office work is a paid job.
- Making money is important.
- The one who brings money home ‘assumes’ that he/she has an authority in all the matters.
I’ve been observing women who ‘work’ in offices often look at housewives with contempt. The feeling of ‘pride’ in their eyes and their inflated ‘ego’ and a false sense of ‘achievement’ gets into my nerves when they treat a housewife as someone with less importance.
Is Office Work Really That Hard?
Working women often use this illusion to show how hard they work. In reality, in every office; the real work happens only in the ~30% of the time. That is, if you work 9 hours a day; the *real* and *tiring* work can never exceed 3 hours. The rest is all time-killing activity. But no one admits it. If you come home tired; then it’s the traffic and your bosswho’s responsible. Not your work. In fact, the harder you work, the more energetic you feel.
Have you ever noticed how lecturers and bank employees spend 8 hours in office and make a big deal out of it that ‘they work so hard’? In reality, they spend 5 hours gossiping, eating and resting. Three hours of real, hard work is all they do but claim the credit for 8 hours.
…and office is often used as the safest bet to show the world how ‘busy’ you are all the time.
Unfortunately; a housewife never gets that luxury.
Why Am I Writing This Post?
I do not mean to look down on working women. But I’m against their attitude of looking down on housewives and using ‘job’ an excuse. The false sense of ‘pride’ in them is what I hate. Of course, there are women who know the reality and have their brains intact and haven’t blown their egos. I respect them. But I’ve zero respect for those who try to look more important than they are. I could have written all I wanted to say with better sentences; but a part of my brain is filled with anger. I’m not even proofreading this post before I publish it.
I dream of a day when our society matures to treat household work equal if not more important than ‘office work’. A housewife does more *real work* than a working woman any day; without getting any appreciation or money. It’s a job more difficult than you think.
My Mother – An Example
My mother is a housewife. Had she chosen to work in a corporate world, she’d be a CEO of an big MNC; and I’m not saying this because she’s my mother. But she stayed at home for her kids – me & my sister. She was there when we returned from school. She’d give us all the dishes we’d ask her to cook. Never said ‘No’ to us. She taught us math, science, biology, history, geography- in a way no one could ever teach. She even taught us common sense – something that’s beyond education. She’s raised two amazing kids – and I think that’s the toughest job. The biggest of all; she never let any negativity surround us.
Even now, she helps us take business decisions and I get amazed by her knowledge and ‘people skill’. Not many know that she’s the one responsible for me starting out a venture. Had she not given me the courage & moral support to quit my job; I’d have never became an entrepreneur – a dream many can’t live because of lack of support from family.
I don’t want to imagine how’d our life be had she decided to go out to work just to bring home a few more thousand rupees a month.