This post is going to get me all the flack from modern mothers; but I think the modern mothers don’t love their kids just as much they should. The trend seems to be going towards making the kid ‘independent’; so that the mother could have some ‘space’. I’m not sure if it’s me or latest fashion is to let someone else raise your kid – be it your neighbours or anyone willing to babysit kids.
What disturbs me the most is to see that the parents ‘hire’ special person to look after the kid. So you’d see father and mother eating at Subway and a girl taking care of the baby and attending his/her tantrums. At the parties you’ll see moms ‘looking’ for someone to look after their kids so that they can ‘enjoy’.
I’d not make a post based on just ‘one’ observation. I’ve been observing this new trend for several months now at various places and occasions.
The Damage Will Be Permanent
A kid needs mother’s touch. Physical ‘touch’ is what keeps a child attached to the mother. There’s this invisible aura that every child wants and only mother can provide for it. Mothers who keep their kids at a distance, are actually losing their kids. Maybe that is the reasons I see several kids/teenagers not at all attached to their parents. I feel really depressed when someone doesn’t care for their parents. It ‘shows’; and it’s *not* good.
The ‘love’ & ‘care’ originates from deep inside. I see this love diluting between modern mothers and their kids. I might be wrong and I just hope I’m wrong.
There’s A Way
Mothers who must earn money to fulfil the requirement and is a earning money is a ‘necessity’ – there are ways you can make *lot* of money working from home or in the time when your kid goes to school. The Internet is your friend and if you ‘really’ want to be there all the time whenever your kid wants you – you should explore Internet beyond Facebook. I’ll definitely write few ways you can do that. You just need some *STRONG* love and care for your kid and willingness to go beyond ‘what will people say?’.
Addendum: “The Father”
So, the comments here made me update this article with an entry to include ‘The Father’. Because in modern times, you just can’t just talk about ‘Mother’ and ‘Father’ individually. If you mention ‘Mother’, ‘Father’ has to chip in. We always want fully ‘balanced’ articles and opinions, don’t we?
Did I ever mention in my article that it’s the sole responsibility of the ‘Mother’ to nurture and take care of the child. Father is equally responsible – and I think that’s just pure common sense. There’s a natural division of responsibility between Father and Mother – and it’s decided by the nature. Why do I see crying kids go silent the moment the they go into their mother’s arms? Why is it that we naturally tend to think, call and even shout ‘Maa’, “Mom”, “Aaaii” when we get hurt? I’m yet to see a kid shouting “Dad” or “Papa” or “Baba”. Why is it that mother seems to be the immediate solution to all the problems we have?
Because the nature’s made it so.
And I’m not ‘pushing’ out responsibilities from all the fathers to all the mothers.
Men and Women are equal – but fathers aren’t engineered to give birth to a baby and the connection with mother is *always* deeper than connection with father. I’m not sure if our *modernist* thinking would ever change that connection because it’s designed like that by the nature.
The “Point” : Parents be aware – the kids don’t get you when they need you. Don’t complain when these kids grow up and send you to old-age homes because they won’t be there when you’ll need them.